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Navigating Breakups: Our Mission and Approach
Going through a breakup can feel overwhelming and isolating. But you don't have to face it alone. Our mission is to empower you as you navigate all the overwhelming details, We offer support navigating the often complex decision-making and legal processes involved in separation, helping you make informed choices and advocate effectively for yourself as you carve out a brighter future.
We offer compassionate and personalized coaching, providing tools and strategies tailored to your specific situation. We help you prepare effectively for each step in the process. This may be your first divorce but it isn't ours. Our experience gives you more choices, helps you make informed decisions, and take effective and meaningful steps to rebuild your life.
You deserve a chance to heal and move forward after a breakup. We're here to support you on your journey.
Common Challenges
Emotional Rollercoaster
You'll experience a wide range of emotions, including sadness, anger, grief, and fear. You may also be confused by your feelings of relief and joy. And your emotions can shift day to day. How do you process these without letting them hijack the decisions you make?
Legal and Financial Issues
Divorce and separation involve complex legal and financial considerations. There isn't a one-size fits all resolution. But, without knowing what to ask for, many people end up with cookie cutter "solutions" that don't serve them well in the long run.
Relationship with Children
If you have children, navigating their feelings and establishing a healthy co-parenting relationship is vital. Most people don't know how to construct a parenting plan that is clear, detailed, and developmentally appropriate. And communicating effectively with an ex about the kids can be very challenging.
Self-Doubt and Uncertainty
It's common to feel lost and uncertain about your future. You may have well meaning friends and family offering advice, much of it conflicting. Whom should you listen to?
The Divorce Coaching Process: How We Can Help
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Assessment and Goals
We'll work with you to understand your unique situation and goals.We'll help you define clear, achievable goals for your future and our work together.
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Manage Emotions- Connect to Resources
We will help you process your emotions so they don't cloud your decision making process. We can also connect you with professional support resources that are a good fit for you.
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Manage Divorce Logistics
We'll equip you with tools and strategies for communications with the other party and your attorney, GAL, etc. We will guide you on key issues and help you prepare effectively for key meetings.
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Support and Accountability
Divorce is overwhelming — we provide ongoing support and accountability so that you don't unwittingly act against your own best interests, including sticking your head in the sand and just agreeing to anything to get it over with only to regret that later.
Why Hire a Divorce Coach?
I already have a divorce attorney – Why do I need a divorce coach on my team?
At 300-500 dollars an hour, it is best to be well prepared for your meetings with your attorney – can help you articulate a set of targeted questions and issues to raise.
Attorneys have an duty to you but also an allegiance to the ongoing professional relationships with fellow attorneys, judges, and all of the other professionals in the family court system. My only duty is to you.
Attorneys take your lead – many people don’t realize what questions they should ask or what they could ask for in their parenting plans and financial agreements.
Also, many people are so emotionally drained and overwhelmed by divorce that they end up using their very expensive attorneys meetings to process their emotions. I can help you process some of that and connect you to other resources that are more appropriate.
I have a friend who has been through a divorce and is helping me for free—Why do I need a divorce coach?
Each person’s divorce is unique and very personal. Well-meaning friends and relatives will naturally speak from their own experience which may be very different from yours.
Perhaps you are divorcing an addict but they didn’t. Perhaps their spouse was transparent about finances but yours isn't. Perhaps they had very different property, income concerns than you do or children of very different ages and needs.
What you need and deserve is more objective and informed advice and coaching tailored to your situation by someone who has much wider experience related to divorce —and who isn’t seeking validation by you doing it as they did.
And, even well-meaning friends and relatives can inadvertently become a pipeline of information to the other party, especially in a high-conflict situation.
Specific things I can help you with during the divorce process:
  • Guidance on the process of choosing an attorney who fits your unique needs including specific referrals and relevant questions to ask during the attorney consult phase.
  • Agenda and list of questions for meetings with your attorney so you can use the meeting time wisely and efficiently.
  • Help crafting emails that are clear and serve your purpose without emotion that undermines your position with your attorney or soon-to-be ex.
  • A wider and more informed set of choices with respect to specific and developmentally appropriate parenting plan details and financial arrangements
  • How to effectively communicate with children and others about your divorce.
  • Review of your documents with specific suggestions and questions to ask your attorney.
  • Connection to a variety of community resources for you and your children.
How I can help you after the divorce is final:
  • In terms of coparenting, we can help you set up a strong start, providing guidance in how you communicate and handle custody exchanges, emails, and children's events.
  • In high conflict situations, co-parenting is ongoing challenge, where every email can feel like a landmine. We can help you navigate this difficult relationship, with the kids well-being in mind, from things to make sure to do and things to avoid.
  • We can help you consider the pros and cons of a moving forward with modifications related to the parenting plan or finances.
  • We provide support and assistance in how to communicate with your children in age appropriate ways about situations that come up.
Other Issues We Can Help With
Beyond divorce, we offer support for a range of family law matters. This includes assistance with modification of existing orders, custody battles that don't involve divorce proceedings, and navigating the complexities of obtaining orders of protection.
Our coaching approach remains consistent: providing you with clarity, emotional support, and strategic guidance to achieve the best possible outcome in your unique situation. We work with you to understand your goals and develop a plan to achieve them, empowering you throughout the process.